THE HEALING SOLUTION FOR BETTER RELATING

This list is a work in progress. It begins to answer the question of "How do you heal your relationship struggles and unhealthy relationship patterns?" We must strengthen a number of skills, most of which can be summarized as "learn how to work with your mind." Learning new skills supports maturing.

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Exploiting Loyalty in Relationships

Children who are ignored or neglected create a misplaced loyalty towards their parent as a buffer against letting in the reality of the parent's emotional absence. The child ingeniously figures out how to distort reality by manufacturing a false loyalty. It's a kind of placeholder in the child's developing mind...

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The Heart of Good Relating

Creating healthy, sustainable relationships is about the art and skill of interacting. How you interact and how others respond to your invitations create the basis for secure attachment. If you want to learn more about how to create intimate and healthy relationships, then you will need to...

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Trust-Testing in Your Relationships

How do you know if you can trust someone? The answer is you must rely on trust-testing. The definition of trust-testing is to test for trust or trustworthiness. All relationships include trust-testing. Children do it; co-workers do it, parents, partners, etc. We constantly test each other to determine...

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